Don’t Be a Settler

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We are converting a room in our house to a bedroom for my boyfriend’s son.   He is moving in with us in May and I am so excited!

This summer, my house will be filled with teenagers (I have 2 of my own and soon I will have 3!).  Call me crazy – but I can’t wait!  I wish I could just freeze time and keep it like this forever.  — Except I would teach them all to do their own laundry!  😉

We found a huge problem with the plumbing in the new room.  A very expensive problem.

We could leave it the way it is, but we would have issues later – nothing that we can’t live with, but it would be inconvenient.

So the question is —Do we settle for what we have now and deal with the issues later?  Do we bite the bullet and pay thousands of dollars to make it exactly the way we want?

This reminded me of all the choices we have in life.  We want something, but then problems arise.   Do we take the risk and go after what we want?  Pay the price?  Or do we settle for something less and deal with the issues.

We all have a life we were born to live.  We have dreams and desires that were put in our heart – for a reason.

If we are not living that life right now, then we are either moving toward it or settling for something less.

When we settle, we know deep inside that there is something more, but we don’t go after it.

We have logical reasons, valid excuses and stories about why we can’t have what we want.

We usually don’t call it settling, we call it making a choice, but deep inside we feel a yearning and a void.  This is the voice of our desires.

Why do we settle?

We settle because we are afraid of failure. What if we take a risk and it doesn’t work out? What if we end up with less or lose what we have now?

We settle because we don’t feel we deserve what we really want.   We decide what we deserve based on our past experience. Then we allow our past to design our future.

We settle because we lack confidence.  The greatest obstacle we face is self-doubt. We listen to that little voice that tells us we are not enough.

We settle because we are impatient. It’s not easy to wait, especially when you want something really bad. We get tired of waiting and take what we can get.

We settle because we don’t want to do the work.   We don’t want to sacrifice or feel discomfort.   Sometimes it seems easier to stay where we are than to do the work to get to where we want to be.

If you want something you have never had, you have to be willing to do something you have never done.

You have to refuse to settle.

When you refuse to settle, you pursue the deepest desires of your heart, refusing to live another day unfulfilled.

You may need to take a risk and step out of your comfort zone.  You may need to face your deepest fears and fight your strongest demons.

But it will be worth it.

I made an agreement with myself years ago that I will never settle for less than I deserve.  It has been painful and scary to let go of something I thought I needed (and loved), but I am 100% fulfilled.  It has been hard work at times, but I am 100% in love with my life.

Refusing to settle will bring you happiness beyond your wildest dreams.

Is there an area of your life where you are settling?  Where you want something more?

What you allow will continue. You are in charge of your own happiness.

2016 is the year to move forward.  It’s time to feel the fear and do it anyway.   It’s time to act in the face of self-doubt and uncertainty.

It’s time to know your own worth and fight for the love, career, body and life you deserve.

Refuse to accept less.  Raise your standards and have the courage to walk away from something that makes you unhappy.

Move forward with bold confidence and choose to believe you will succeed.

It’s time to stop accepting “good enough” when amazing is possible.

It’s time to break free and tap into the power and strength inside you.

Make the rest of your life the best of your life!

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