How to Find Clarity When You Feel Confused

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Have you ever struggled with a decision? Been confused or unclear?

Confusion is an illusion. You really know what to do, but there are competing thoughts swirling in your head.

Should I? Shouldn’t I? Can I? Can’t I? What if? How do I know for sure? UGH!

How do you access your answers and move from confusion to clarity?

The first step is to quiet the mental noise and clear a space for your own answers to emerge.

You have this part of you that always knows what to do…. Your wise self. All you have to do is tap into it.

There is mental clutter that covers your wise self. You have to clear it before you can have clarity.

What is Mental Clutter?

“I Should”

Shoulds are internal rules that we create based on our beliefs and values. Some should are based on commitments and priorities. “I should workout today”.

Other shoulds come from guilt, fear and limiting beliefs, such as what a good mother, wife, daughter, husband, friend, etc., would do. For example, “I should finish my work, but I should be a good friend and talk on the phone”.


Most of our fears originate from past hurts or limiting beliefs. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of what people may think, fear of losing your freedom, fear of making a mistake, fear of being taken advantage of, fear of losing money, etc. When you see that the fear is clouding your decision, ask yourself this, “What would I do if this fear weren’t present?”. This will help you access your deepest desire.

Lack of Possibility

You have beliefs about what is and isn’t possible (or can and can’t happen) – this limits you in life. There may be a whole other perspective you are not seeing because you have narrowed your lens of what is possible.


You feel you might make the wrong decision. You don’t trust yourself. When doubt is present, faith is missing.

Other People’s Opinions

It’s impossible to hear your own voice with all those other people in your head. Getting advice is a good thing, however, the advice needs to resonate with your intuition. Sometimes the more people you talk to, the more confused you become. Choose 2-3 people you trust, whose opinions you value. Then make your own decision that is right for you.


Guilt is a powerful emotion with a dark side. It can drive us to do things we don’t want to do and it can keep us from having what we really want.


We are our toughest critics. That little voice in our head can be so loud that it drowns out our intuition.

Once you clear the mental clutter, now you can access your answers.

If you had no fear, doubt or guilt… If you weren’t listening to other people’s opinions or judging yourself… If you truly believed anything was possible…. Then what decision would you make?

Confusion serves a purpose in our lives. It is the door that wisdom comes in through.

And always remember…Never make permanent decisions on temporary emotions. Allow yourself time to go through the process of moving from confusion to clarity.

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